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The Rehearsal Dinner September 27, 2008

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Stephanie and I were talking today about what to do about the rehearsal dinner. We have so many people coming in from out of town, and it looks like we will have such a large wedding party. We could have 60 people just for the rehearsal dinner. We want to give everyone a good time, and thank everyone for coming in to see our wedding, and for making the wedding possible. But, we are not rich.

The idea was: we could have the wedding at the church’s reception hall, and just get takeout from a few of our favorite restaurants. We could bring in beer and wine (but no hard liquor), and appetizer platters, and get some food from Pho Grand, Blackthorn Pizza, and Rasoi (just to name a few options). We could do the serving, perhaps with the help of our wedding party. I really like the possibilities…


4 Responses to “The Rehearsal Dinner”

  1. Andrew Says:

    Having the rehearsal dinner be an informal affair with take-out food sounds lovely. I’ve eaten at Pho Grand, and liked it. And I’ve heard much about Blackthorn Pizza.

    The one thing I would say, though, is don’t make things too complicated for yourselves. The one thing about having an event at a restaurant, or having it catered, is that someone else is taking care of it. If you decide to have a DIY rehearsal dinner, you should strongly consider enlisting some help among the wedding party and maybe delegating some responsibility. (I’d help however I can.)

  2. girldogtorch Says:

    Stephanie again: Well–one thing we have to keep in mind is that we have nearly as many people coming to the rehearsal dinner as to the reception. Our wedding party is 17, and most of those have significant others. A great majority of our guests are from out of town, and I know Matt’s parents would like to include that category of guests. I can think of 70 people that would then come to the rehearsal dinner, off the top of my head. Having it at a restaurant at that point becomes difficult, both because of space, and because of cost. Our “favorite take out” seems like a good theme, and a chance to share some of our favorite St. Louis foods, and it’s affordable. As for delegating—that’s the plus side of having a wedding party of 17 😉

  3. girldogtorch Says:

    Matt here — The idea for the rehearsal dinner isn’t to make it “informal,” per se, but rather to make it affordable. With the number of guests, we’ll have to be pretty thoughtful to figure out the logistics, but there will be toasts, probably some readings, and the traditional gifts for the wedding party &c. The food will be takeout, but we’ll be doing what we can to make the church’s reception hall look nice (centerpieces, decorations, etc.) We are only at the beginning stages of our thinking, but we’ll have more later.

  4. Maeve's mom Says:

    I can’t believe I’m going to type this, and feel free to ignore me, but…Mike and I had this same problem, over 50 at the rehearsal dinner. We did a catered BBQ in the backyard of the 2-family flat we lived in. It was lovely (all be in informal) and everyone had a wonderful time. Soooo, if you wanted our backyard for this shindig in lieu of the parish hall you would be welcome. We could string lights all over the deck, and even in the mulberry tree. Rent tables, do your centerpieces, etc, etc. We’ve had pool parties with 50+ and managed, so I think this would be doable too. Just a thought to ruminate on.

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